WHEN WILL INDIA GET RID OF FEMALE TABOOS ?

A list of dos and don’ts is subconsciously fed into a woman’s life over the years. Consequently, there is a lot of guilt and shame involved while, after or before doing anything ‘unaccepted.’ Absolutely no area of a woman’s life has been spared in this sense. Restricting other areas for now, I would like to expand on the much tabooed female sexuality and desire.Sexuality in India, since long, has been considered as something to be discussed in hushed voices and discovered behind closed doors.Growing up in such a hostile environment, children learn to hide their curiosity from their parents.However, there is a difference between how adolescent boys express their sexuality and how adolescent girls do. Due to the granted societal permission for boys as being overtly sexual beings (“Boys will be boys!”), social acceptance of sexual encounters or discoveries like- masturbation, viewing pornography, losing virginity is more for boys than for girls.Boys comfortably discuss their sexuality whereas far lesser number of girls do it, due to the instilled shame. Because of this, a general consciousness is formed that girls are and should be, the desired and not the desiring, only up for male consumption lacking any traces of sexual desires for themselves.The most problematic of all the myths is that women are ‘not’ and should not be desiring beings. This misconception roots from an essentially patriarchal framework which is based on the dynamics of power where man is the provider and woman is the receiver. Some more taboos related to female sexuality are :
#Women_donot_masturbate
#Women_donot_watch_porn
#Female_homosexuality
#The_clitoris_is_an_unnecessary_part_of_a_woman_body
#A_woman_who_loses_her_virginity_before_marriage_is_immoral
Recently, I came across the incessant trolling that Actress #Swara_Bhaskar has been facing for her masturbation scene in #Veere_Di_Wedding. From being compared to a porn star to a prostitute, Swara has faced it all for the scene where she is #using_a_vibrator_to_pleasure_herself.As to how come in this country of rampant baby production, a woman seeking pleasure while with her partner or by herself is still such a #HUGE_TABOO? Are we expected to give birth but not expected to love the organ that helps in the birthing process?
Just imagine the irony and hypocrisy of the situation. While a woman gives birth, she is not supposed to enjoy sex and while men might even flash their dicks right on our faces and masturbate in public places, a woman is not even allowed to seek pleasure in privacy.
I’d like to end by reminding everyone that WOMEN ENJOY SEX. Please do not put us on a pedestal as a Devi or keep slut shaming us if we don’t follow your ‘rules’. Let us be normal human beings, just like men. Female masturbation is still such a taboo topic in India, and this is exactly the kind of mindset that has helped in keeping it under wraps.
Masturbation is healthy and stimulating yourself is an amazing way to understand what you like doing better under the sheets.
#female_masturbation
#trolling_SwaraBhaskar
#VeereDeWedding