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Male fraternity is not to be blamed always for everything

As per Census 2011, the population of India is more than 121 Crore with 48.5% females, 949 females to 1000 males in rural India against 929 females to 1000 males in urban India. Therefore, contribution of male can not be supressed by that of female. The female literacy rate according to the 2011 census is 64.63% whereas the male literacy rate is over 80%. Again, the decision making can not be taken over by female. As per Census 2011, the workforce participation rate for females is 25.51% against 53.26% for males. So, it is bit difficult for females to manage things all alone without the help of men. Women in India are becoming independent but the number is still very less in comparison to men. I always bought into the popular arguments that men and women were basically the same and that we only became different under the influence of culture, environment and society. But then several events changed my tune. I learned that God had created men and women uniquely differen

“I Wish People Stopped Obsessing Over The Sex Of My Unborn Child”

In the current era, when India is running awareness campaigns like “ Beti Bachao Beti Padhao “, the desire for sons remains strong among Indian parents. The  sex ratio at birth  (SRB) has dropped continuously since Census 2011, coming down from 909 girls per thousand boys in 2011-2013 to 896 girls in 2015-2017, says the latest SRS Statistical Report. This data suggests that girl children are still unwanted by the majority of Indians. I am almost five months pregnant, so the most frequently asked questions are, “Is that a boy or a girl?” and “Do you want a baby boy or baby girl?” These questions are really disappointing and sometimes even depressing. Why do people fail to understand that it’s not in my hands to produce a child with the gender of my choice? And how can it matter to a mother if it is a boy or a girl? Why is it necessary to know the sex of the child? I am just surprised at how rarely anyone asks a question related to how my pregnancy is going

A letter to my unborn daughter- Set yourself free

It’s been around 30 weeks of my pregnancy and I do not know if you are a girl or a boy, because pre-natal sex determination is crime in India. But I really do not know why I always feel the strength inside which reminds that you are one of the strongest girls. This feeling gives me immense pleasure and I enjoy every moment with you. But I also want you to know that being a girl is not easy to sustain in our society.  “Don’t shout! Be polite! Don’t argue! Maintain your modesty! Be a good wife/ daughter/ sister! You are the nose of the family!”- you would be asked for these and many more commands in all your life. But you do not need to follow it blindly.  Life of a girl is heavily fed on guilt and it becomes more tough as you grow up. Sometimes we are brought up making us feel guilty of our existence. In all the situation whether you are beautiful, ugly, fat, thin, tall or short, the society puts you down. If you are beautiful, you are forced to feel guilty because you would