SOMETIMES IT'S HARD BEING A GIRL

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I’m a girl so I’m always the emotional, the sensitive, the vulnerable, the weak one(general perception of the so called "society"). Being a girl is hard. It’s hard because from the day a girl is born she is forced to realize that she is born into a society that values men more than women; from the disappointment she looks on her father’s face, for not having a son because to him, only sons, not daughters, are able to handle important matters in the family.
It’s hard from the first Physical Education class when the girls' gender and physical strength are tied to one word: weak; from the time she struggles to get her voice heard and her opinions valued. Being a female she is assumed to be less smart and less capable.
She is taught that beauty is essential to her identity and giving birth is her purpose of existing, and thus, if she is not beautiful, yet single and childless, there must be something inherently wrong with her that needs to be fixed. And if she is beautiful, it’s even a greater sin because that will be all what she is seen for, not her brain, her soul or anything that makes her whole.
Being a girl is hard because her body and sexuality is somehow everyone’s business. She is judged for the clothes she wear, the people she is with and every little choice she makes about what to do with her own body.Also, when it comes to sex, there is really no way to win as a girl: if I sleep with a man too soon, I’m a slut; If I refuse his advances, I’m a moralist.
And because he’s a man, it’s understandable for him to not be able to control himself and want to have sex with her but it will be her fault if she is assaulted or raped by him because she doesn’t know how to say no, or because she doesn’t has self-respect, or because her clothes are too revealing, or because she is stupid. Even if she is not assaulted or raped, she will always have to worry about being seen as easy and cheap even though it’s just as normal of her as of a man to have sexual desires when being intimate with someone she is attracted to.
I never understood and I think I won't be able to understand that why the so called "society" behaves in this manner. I really fail to understand male chauvinism. I don't know why men perceive women in their own manner. I don't know why men think that being nice to them is that women are available to them anywhere and anytime.
P.S. : God knows when will I get the answers to these questions !

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